the way we love

we have to reinvite love, says Alain de Botton.
romanticism made us think that all of us have a specific soul mate to find but maybe we just follow the love conception from our society.

he gives some tips to know when someone is ready for love:
be generous in the interpretation of the behaviour of other person
use humour to deal with situations
understand your are crazy
understand the other person is crazy
the communication should be in a basic level
there will be a lot of practical work to make it happen
one will be unhappy a great amount of the time
pessimism is future of love!

I wonder if it turns out that romanticism is actually real and that love is the meaning of life.
should we give up to find it?